How One Woman Redefined Her Bucket List

Barb was used to taking care of people. In fact, she loved helping her patients at Ascension, where she retired after 45 years as an RN and Registered Respiratory Therapist.

“I wasn’t looking forward to retirement,” she says, “because my work was so rewarding."

As word got out about her retirement plans, the same question popped up in her conversations. “So Barb, what’s on your bucket list? I didn’t have an answer, so I felt that I needed to create one. And it doesn’t seem acceptable to lay back a bit.”

She felt there were all sorts of unspoken expectations. Will she be busy enough? Will she be productive and contribute? Will she do things that others only dream of doing?

Barb did have a few ideas in mind. She wanted to read more books, travel to Israel, and she’d always wanted to learn how to swim.

So as a woman of faith, she prayed about it. Her Bible study raised questions in her mind that stirred her heart…what might it look like to be a living sacrifice and what exactly does one do with a servant’s heart?

In the weeks of pondering those questions, Barb recalled a talk she heard about filing up your life and pouring it back out. In fact, she kept a dry sponge on her desk - a visual reminder that as you soak up the blessings in life, the sponge gets full. And the idea of course, is to squeeze that sponge back out by helping others.

“How can I use my new season of retirement to pour into others?” she wondered.

Shortly before her last working day, a coworker shared her enthusiasm about a healthcare mission trip she experienced. The idea intrigued Barb for reasons she couldn’t explain.

This particular group, Word of Life Missions, offered short term trips that brought both medical help and the gospel to the poor around the world. But as is true with so many situations that are unfamiliar to us, doubts and fears quickly loomed overhead Barb’s head like storm clouds.

“Yes, I had doubts. Particularly, what if I didn’t have the strength to endure a trip like that at my age? And how would I overcome the language barriers? And would I be safe?”

At the time of writing this post, Barb was preparing for her fifth trip (twice to Guatemala and the third time now to the Dominican Republic). As she reflected on those initial fears, she smiled a knowing smile.

“You know, God just took care of all of those things. I went on my first trip still plagued with doubts and a little fear, but they were quickly soothed. There were wonderful interpreters who made conversations with our patients easy and meaningful. There were people in place who bent over backwards to make sure we were all very safe. And my age has never been a factor. God always gives me the energy and strength I need without fail.”

So, was this God’s will for her all along? If so, how did Barb know that these trips were what needed to be at the top of her bucket list?

“It was a combination of things, you know…prayer, questions that tugged at my heart in Bible study, and feelings of warmth and fatherly love from God. I felt it was important not to overlook opportunities that came my way.”

With tender eyes and great peace, Barb thought back to her original bucket list.

“All of those ideas were ‘I’ centered. I want to read more books. I want to see Israel. I want to learn to swim. And those are all nice things. But when my focus shifted on how to pour into others, this new season of life made so much more sense to me.

Most of us know how we’re gifted, what we’re good at and it makes us feel comfortable to do those things. But what if God is working new gifts into our lives? I feel that’s what He’s doing with me. He’s stretching me and using me in new ways that aren’t familiar. And I’ve grown so much as a result.

I’ve learned it’s not always about what I want or think. Sometimes God has something completely different in mind. Something so much better than what I could dream of for my bucket list.”

Meet Levi - Approaching Life With Common Sense

I’ve always said that every life has a lesson to teach, no matter the generation. We tend to think that the learning only happens with someone older than ourselves.

Meet Levi. He’s eleven years old and a gentleman. He opened every door for me, among his other impressive manners.

We sat down for lunch recently and shared a few stories. We also talked about birth order, movies, goals, and change.

No matter the subject, what stood out to me was his attitude. There isn’t a trace of complaint or discontent in his attitude. (Talk about convicting.)

Based on our conversation, I could tell that Levi approaches most everything with the common sense of a much older soul.  And I learned.

I came home and jotted these down, courtesy of Levi:

Being a first born carries responsibility and a need for daily patience with younger siblings who always want to follow you around. (He has three younger brothers.)

Being home schooled allows the student to totally focus on their studies and accomplish more learning in less time. Levi often gets the afternoon off. That's a good gig.

Having a Dad who likes the same kind of movies that you do makes for a fun and easy way to connect.

Not having a sister is okay. They would probably get their own room.

Levi is very close to getting his black belt. He says it takes dedication and perseverance.

His karate instructor’s words of gold that have stuck with him: "When opponents compete, it’s not the rank of the belt that matters, but it’s what actually happens when you spar."

TV is overrated. History is not.

A word of gold from Levi regarding big changes: “My family recently moved. It was a lot of work. But I could do it again if I had to.”

Did I think like that in fifth grade? I'm guessing not.

But I can now.

Featured Guest - Meet Maggie

The Mindset to Write Our Own Fairytale 

“I’ve been an introverted observer all my life. I’m content to just sit and be in someone’s company. I don’t have to talk. And I don’t need the other person to talk. As a child, all that sitting back and being quiet helped me to learn about people. Now I see profound things in books, in the words of my Mom, or in just one sentence one of my professors might say. There must be themes in the back of my mind because I see significance where others might not. For example, I’m sure writers don’t intend for their every word to hold significance, but I sub consciously find it. I think all artists tend to do that. 

I’ve been working on my senior thesis, rewriting children’s fairytales. It bothers me that there’s not more regard for the potential that children’s literature has to impact their lives. When you’re young, you can read a book and it sticks with you the rest of your life. That’s usually not true with adult literature. So when the secondary lessons within a children’s story imply you have to be a pretty princess or you need to wait long enough for someone to come and save you, it gives children wrong messages. I’d like to change that. 

Since high school, I feared that I couldn’t do what I wanted to do because my passion scares me all the time. I mean, what if my ideas are not original enough? What if what I hope to do doesn’t work? So I try to talk to myself with logic and I pray a lot. When good things have happened at unexpected times, I try to hold onto that. I tell myself that the next good thing to happen might be just around the corner.”